For my fellow submissives, I know that we’ve all had those moments in our professional lives or maybe even with our family members where we have to be the one in charge. I know that I’ve had to put on my bitch pants every once in a while to go to bat for a client, and I don’t mind that at all. I’m trying to help someone and I’ll do what I have to do to accomplish that. What I’m talking about is a beast (or beasts) of an entirely different nature.
We have dogs, BIG dogs, and they are old and male and while they are very well behaved, they often do what they want to do and not what they’re supposed to. I find it difficult sometimes, and often hilarious, to be at home in my safe in my submissive mindset and have to switch suddenly from the role I am comfortable in to a role that exerts dominance over these beasts we share our home with. I might be in the kitchen with Sir cooking and talking, and then suddenly I have to pop into “Dom Voice”. Get out of the kitchen! Out! It works most of the time, but they will sneak back in moments later for a sniff or just to lay down in the middle of the floor to be stepped over. My husband definitely seems to have more influence on their behavior than I do, I wonder why that is?
Sometimes, I don’t even notice that I am stepping around them, and then my husband will come in and shoo them away and then remind me that I’m not to let them do that. It’s for all our own safety, of course. I don’t want to trip and fall over one of them, and I’ve come awfully close to dropping an 8 inch chef’s knife right onto the big guy’s face. And, just like any Dominant/submissive relationship, repetition and consistency is important to reaffirm the dynamic. I still can’t help but giggle every time I have to deepen my voice and assert myself over them. Off the couch! Leave it, don’t eat that! Go lay down! The upside is that they are really good for warm cozy snuggles, and I don’t have to feel like a switch to get that!