Clicker training was a kink that we explored very early on into this journey, an it quickly became one of our favorites. It’s easy and fun, it doesn’t require a lot of planning or set-up, and it is great for getting me into my submissive headspace. It ticks many of my boxes, humiliation, control and cock worship. It also really helped me to enjoy sucking his cock because I was able to finally learn exactly what he wanted, and I was getting immediate feedback from the sound of the clicker. It’s not that I didn’t enjoy blow jobs before this, but I didn’t have the confidence in my skills and I never really got turned on by it in the past. Now I relish the task, the feeling of his cock in my mouth and down my throat, choking on it, kneeling before him, looking up into his eyes and hearing him moan and grunt as I work. It gets me so good!
Clicker training on humans works very similarly to training dogs. When a dog behaves in a way that is pleasing, the dog sits for example, the owner will say “good dog!”, give it a treat and then click. When the behavior is repeated, the process is the same and the good behavior is reinforced. Eventually, the treats and the vocal encouragement are removed, and only the clicker remains as positive reinforcement for the good behavior.
You can use this technique on humans to train them to do almost anything, and it’s quite remarkable how well it can work. You can train someone to pick their clothes off of the floor, to turn lights off when they leave a room, or in my case to give a perfect blowjob! Humans don’t need the treat as part of the training process since we understand language, just a click and some sort of vocal reward, “good girl”, “well done”, etc. The sound my clicker makes is now a trigger that instantly makes me feel good, both physically and mentally. The sound activates the Amygdala, (the “Lizard Brain”) the part of the brain that processes emotions, and when it is stimulated like this, it dumps loads of chemicals into your system making you feel super happy.
The training can be very serious, but we took a more lighthearted and fun approach because that’s more our style. My husband started the training by playing a game, which brings out my (very) competitive side. He wrote down a list of four tasks and I was to figure out the correct order without any verbal cues. When I got the order of the tasks, I would get a click. If I didn’t get the right order, he would receive more pleasure as I went through the list to figure out the right one.
Obviously, I already knew how to do all of these things and that he enjoyed them, but it was the confidence I gained that allowed me to really find my groove. He says that now I’m giving him the best blowjobs of his life which of course only helps my confidence and makes me want to give him more! As we progressed, he would increase the difficulty of each lesson as I got better at certain skills. Before we started, I couldn’t take him all the way to the back of my throat without gagging, and now I can actually take him down my throat, something I’d always wanted to be able to do. I just love having a load of cum dumped directly down my throat!
We also played other games that had nothing to do with blow jobs or sex at all. He had me figure out five things to do with a chair one day and I thought I was going to throw it at him, I was so frustrated. He set a timer for three minutes and watched as I jumped around like an idiot trying to figure out what he wanted. I sat on the chair and got a click, I sat sideways and got a click. Those were the easy ones. I stood on the chair, click. Then it got a little weird as I’m trying to figure out the last two. Finally, I lifted the chair over my head in exasperation, and click. The timer went off and I never got the last task, to lean over the back of the chair. And even though it was frustrating, (I hate failing) it was still fun and silly and it showed me that I don’t need to take things so seriously.
We also used the clicker for hand job training, which turned out to be so much fun! I’d put on a porno and kneel in front of him, and stroke him with a silicone based lube. When I was doing something he liked, I’d get a click. If it was too good and he was close to cumming, I’d get two clicks and I’d have to grab the base of his cock to keep his orgasm at bay. I’d edge him like this for thirty or forty minutes until he’d push me down onto my back and stand over me, splashing me with his cum as I writhed on the carpet.
My dream would be for him to use the clicker to train me to cum on command. We’ve started working on that with verbal cues, but it has been tough. I don’t cum quickly or easily, so it might be five or ten minutes after he tells me to cum that I’m finally able to let go and orgasm. It can be very frustrating for me, and the frustration can lead to discouraging thoughts that make it even harder. I’ve gotten better lately, but I’m still very far away from that goal. It would be so sexy to hear that click and be able to cum instantly for him.