Clicker training was a kink that I explored very early on into this journey, and it quickly became one of my favorites. It’s easy and fun, it doesn’t require a lot of planning or set-up, and it is great for getting me into my submissive headspace. It ticks many of my boxes, humiliation, control and cock worship. It also really helped me to enjoy the art of sucking cock because I was able to finally learn different techniques with immediate feedback from the sound of the clicker. It’s not that I didn’t enjoy blow jobs before this, but I didn’t have the confidence in my skills and I never really got turned on by it in the past. Now I relish the task, the feeling of a cock in my mouth and down my throat, choking on it, kneeling before it, looking up into their eyes and hearing them moan and grunt as I work. It gets me so good!
Clicker training on humans works very similarly to training dogs. When a dog behaves in a way that is pleasing, the dog sits for example, the owner will say “good dog!”, give it a treat and then click. When the behavior is repeated, the process is the same and the good behavior is reinforced. Eventually, the treats and the vocal encouragement are removed, and only the clicker remains as positive reinforcement for the good behavior.
You can use this technique on humans to train them to do almost anything, and it’s quite remarkable how well it can work. You can train someone to pick their clothes off of the floor, to turn lights off when they leave a room, or in my case to give a perfect blowjob! Humans don’t need the treat as part of the training process since we understand language, just a click and some sort of vocal reward, “good girl”, “well done”, etc. The sound a clicker makes is now a trigger that instantly makes me feel good, both physically and mentally. The sound activates the Amygdala, (the “Lizard Brain”) the part of the brain that processes emotions, and when it is stimulated like this, it dumps loads of chemicals into your system making you feel super happy.
The training can be very serious depending on a person’s learning style, but I took a more lighthearted and fun approach because that’s more my style. My “trainer” started my lessons by playing a game, which brought out my (very) competitive side. He wrote down a list of four tasks and I was to figure out the correct order without any verbal cues. When I got the order of the tasks, I would get a click. If I didn’t get the right order, he would receive more pleasure as I went through the list to figure out the right one.
Obviously, I already knew how to do all of these things, and I knew that my trainer enjoyed them, but it was the confidence I gained that allowed me to really find my groove. As we progressed, he would increase the difficulty of each lesson as I got better at certain skills. Before we started, I couldn’t take a cock all the way to the back of my throat without gagging. It was practice and confidence in my abilities that allowed me to gain and enjoy this new skill. Now, I just love having a load of cum dumped directly down my throat!
We also played other games that had nothing to do with blow jobs or sex at all. He had me figure out five things to do with a chair one day and I thought I was going to throw it at him, I was so frustrated. He set a timer for three minutes and watched as I jumped around like an idiot trying to figure out what he wanted. I sat on the chair and got a click, I sat sideways and got a click. Those were the easy ones. I stood on the chair, click. Then it got a little weird as I’m trying to figure out the last two. Finally, I lifted the chair over my head in exasperation, and click. The timer went off and I never got the last task, to lean over the back of the chair. And even though it was frustrating, (I hate failing) it was still fun and silly and it showed me that I don’t need to take things so seriously.
We also used the clicker for hand job training, which turned out to be so much fun! I would kneel in front of him and stroke him with a silicone based lube. When I was doing something he liked, I’d get a click. If it was too good and he was close to cumming, I’d get two clicks and I was told to grab the base of his cock to keep his orgasm at bay. I would edge him like this for thirty or forty minutes until he’d push me down onto my back and stand over me, splashing me with his cum as I writhed on the carpet with pride and pleasure.
It’s been quite a while since I’ve used the clicker during play, but the skills that I acquired during my training have stuck with me. And, the pleasure I get from giving a long blow job have not waned. The people that I’ve shared my skills with have certainly not had any complaints either! Their moans and sighs of pleasure give me just as much satisfaction as the high pitched staccato punctuation of the clicker!
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I loved reading this ☺ makes me want to try it as it’s something we’ve never done. We do puppy play so could use it for its intended purpose. But your way does sound more fun.
You should try it and I would love to hear about how it turned out! There’s a great podcast from Sex Nerd Sandra called Pavlovian Sex: Human Clicker Training with Miss Holly. We listened to that and went out and bought a clicker the next day!
I told Littlegem and I think it’s a goer. She likes the idea too, back to the pet shop for more sex things. I’ll have to give that podcast a listen.
Yayyy!! I can’t wait to hear your take on it. We will be getting ours out this evening – apparently Sir was also inspired by my post!?
Really interesting post. Not something that would work for me I think as I would find the clicker too dehumanising for me and I can’t imagine it ever feeling like a reward but it is amazing to read how it works for others.
Mollyx
Thanks Molly! It’s definitely not for everyone. The ultimate reward is the confidence I’ve gained from it!
Really interesting! Thanks for sharing.
Thanks! We have fun with it.
This is really interesting as Ive never heard of this with people before, but it makes sense on that basic level. So glad it works for you and you are enjoying (and so is he) your new skills!!
Thanks! There are all sorts of applications for humans which I haven’t researched at all, but apparently they’ve experimented with training surgeons using the clicker. So weird!
This is fascinating. We actually have a clicker for the dog which we have never used. I am not sure if it would work for me or not but I might suggest it to HL at some point. Thanks for sharing 🙂
Thanks missy! We used one on our dogs for a while and it worked pretty well for the short period of time we kept up with it. Glad we’ve found a fun way to play with it!
It is intriguing. ?
Hmmmm… I would love to hear about if you decide to include one in your play!☺️
I find this absolutely fascinating to read about. It makes total sense that clicker training could work, but I’d never heard of it. And I love that it’s worked so well for you!
Thanks! It is interesting to think that we can be trained in that way.?